THE NEW DANCE CARD

Two years had passed since my last attempt to be a couple with a man that promised love ever after. That was not to be. I was feeling the loss again. A different kind of grief but a sense of sadness nonetheless.

As the months being by myself passed, I was starting to feel lonely. I missed having someone in my life, even if it was temporary. I desired those moments again. Once again I perused the online dating sites. OMG, the number of online options had increased significantly since my last go round.

with excitement and enthusiasm, I approached the process as enlightening and fun this time. My laptop was open and eager to click away. Here I go again, I thought. I wondered who would be new on the scene. I was alone now- not lonely, but alone and I wanted to share my time with someone I could deeply care about.

My profile was reactivated and reflected with aging, there is a whole new set of rules about seeking companionship. I was now looking for security in knowing there would be someone there in time of need.”I have fallen and can’t get up!” That life alert button by itself may not be the safety net for one’s survival.

We humans are not designed to be alone. Yes, I sometimes protested that I was happy in my independence with the freedom to do as I pleased, but I always felt that desire to be a couple. It seemed to be a bigger need as I approached retirement. I was now applying for social security and medicare. Those fragile years of declining health. But is this reason enough to look for someone?

I believe now that I was looking for more than that. A friend of mine compared love and companionship. He quipped. “Love is meant to be more than having a safety net, that companion. A pet can provide that. A “Lover” will give you more. Remember that Annie.”

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Auditioning New Dancers

After revisiting a few of my previous dates I found that it is never the same the second time around.

As I settled into my life as a single senior I decided to sign up once again on an internet dating site. Who would be new to this game? Would I see some of the same guys that were there 8 years ago and would they recognize me and wonder why I hadn’t found love yet?

My profile needed to be rewritten. The words would have to be modified to to suit my desires now . My misconceptions and preconceived notions about dating again had changed I was smarter now. I would be more careful about who I selected but also more open to those that I wouldn’t have chosen the first time around.

“So I Think I Can Dance” It read:

Im back and eager to meet someone who has similar interests and perspective on life. I am interested in finding someone to spend quality time together through travel, conversation, athletic events, performing arts and the like while maintaining independence. I like interdependence,respect, love, and honoring all that each will bring to a relationship. Our respective families should always be included as they have formed our lives and the rich history that is important to me. I have always approached life as a wonderful learning process and I know people enter our lives for a reason to fill a present need. I would like to fill that void in someone’s life. I thought I could dance the first time on this floor of love and I did, but those final steps need perfecting with that one final dance partner. Are you him?

Done…all signed up My New Dance Card was ready for auditioning. Would my next dancer be a ballroom dance? Mambo, Foxtrot, Samba, Merengue perhaps? Or another form of creative movement such as Jazz, Ballet, Tap or lyrical? Back to the computer,and the clicking of that mouse begins…

 

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The Two Step

Back to my lap top of potential romantic choices. The profiles were numerous. Many men in their 50’s mostly divorced some widowed and a few just separated like myself.

Reading the many dossiers of the lovelorn was starting to be a job! So many men and women pouring out their hearts and souls onto that virtual page. We were all vying for that next applicant to invite into our lives.

“Winks” were coming in now; that first introduction from someone wanting to say hello but are afraid to leave a message. Perhaps we are all a little guarded for fear of not being noticed or rejected if we make the first move. That is the new way of dating. Technology has provided so many advances as a whole but in the realm of love it only serves to distance two people allowing connecting without commitment.

Mr. Two Step approached me. Shocker!  His profile read: “The Feeling Is Gone And I Want It Back. My 30 minute infomercial: extra for shipping and handling. Guarantee option available. I am rather tall (6′ 6”) not overweight just over tall. He sent a quick text saying he liked my profile and would like to begin a conversation.

This guy was cute, but too young …46 years old. Wasn’t sure I wanted to respond but good ole Annie was raised to be polite. I winked.

His response “So you like tall men?”

I responded, “yes but they have to have substance.”

This began our clever dialogue for the night. We decide to meet.

To see what happened with Mr. Two Step check out “THE DANCE CARD” Looking For Love After Divorce by Ann Reichardt available on Amazon.com, Barnes & Noble, Kindle Apple i-tunes.

 

The Yacht… The Robe

At the end of the pier a magnificent craft was was moored. The sleek lines of this custom yacht oozed celebrity, fame and fortune. Greeted by a uniformed captain we entered a new stage of the life of this performer.

“Annie welcome to my home away from home. Please let’s get you out of those wet clothes. My staff will provide you with something warm.”

“Lovely! This is spectacular, Mr. Ballet. I am speechless.”

As I was escorted to the sleeping quarters for a change of clothes, I wondered what he had in mind?  Was I just another understudy ballerina to practice his pirouettes, double, and triples? I didn’t think that was his intent, but I was pretty much captive, I didn’t want to leave this fanciful world.

Presented with a beautiful, soft velour white robe, I was reminded of the black fluffy robe that I wore with Mr. Waltz, a previous dancer. I thought it was mine alone back then but soon found out that that wasn’t the case: it had been worn by many others.

Mr. Ballet appeared wearing his own white robe For three hours we chatted about the days events while sipping flutes of sparkling champagne. He was in a league of his own-professional league, and I was the rookie for the night.

Ann Reichardt’s eight year journey of looking for love after divorce is chronicled in her book “The Dance Card” Looking For Love After Divorce available on Amazon, Barnes& Noble, Kindle, Apple itunes

Her stories continue in her new book “The New Dance Card” Looking For Love Online soon to be released

For more information contact Ann at:

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The Performance… On and Off the Stage

The passion was out of control. The night was filled with performances of unexpected delight. The stage was set for an evening of romance. The seductive moves were intoxicating! I felt like a goddess. The white robes presented earlier would be our feather bed for the night. Soft and warm.

I was turned on by Mr. Ballet and all of his moves on and off the dance floor. Wrapping my arms around this magnificent man… the magic began. The performance and passion that night would remain a distant memory. A one time empowering performance, unleashing all desires to someone who in turn became powerless to my advances.

I was flying high again as if we were on another flight, much different from that initial first flight that brought us together. Was this fate? Perhaps.

To follow this romantic dancers moves Ann Reichardt’s second book “The New Dance Card” Looking For Love Online will be released this year. It is a follow up of her first released book”The Dance Card” Looking For Love After Divorce.

Contact Ann for interviews at anniereichardt@gmail.com

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The Flight…

After a bevy of conversations with Mr. Pasa Doble, we both decided it was time to meet. Maybe for a facial rejuvenation consult or maybe just to meet. It would give me an excuse to travel to Seattle.

I decided to bite the bullet; booking a flight, preparing once again for the  unknown, I felt it necessary to let someone know  what I was up to. I notified my sister and she offered to come along. I reassured her I would be fine. After all how old was I? Geez

I packed my bags, mostly casual attire, along with one cute little black dress. This would be the first time that I’d travel a long distance to meet someone I’d never met. I wasn’t fearful, oddly enough, not even apprehensive, only excited.

The takeoff was smooth…but as we climbed it got bumpy! The winds whipped the plane around  as if I were on a roller coaster ride at Six Flags. I wasn’t a big fan of thrill seeking rides so I was nervous. I thought ” I’m going to die. How could I jeopardize my life for someone I’d never met?”

Grabbing the arm rest; clawing my nails deep as if I were at the dentists getting a root canal without Novocain!  I felt dread, anxiety and physically sick as my 63 years flashed before my eyes. The thrashing of luggage in the overhead bins, beverage carts flying down the narrow aisle only increased my fear.

DING! The seat belt sign illuminated. The pilot announced the turbulence would continue for another 30 minutes.  That didn’t seem to calm my anxieties any. I glanced at the passenger next to me. I wondered. Who is he? Is he meeting a loved one at the end of this crazy ride? Were we going to die together?

He looked my way and noticed my concern and began to talk to me, maybe to try and calm my anxieties. I didn’t want to talk. I was not processing, Small talk was not a good distraction for me. I couldn’t respond.

There was huge dip and plunge and then a leveling off of the plane. My heart jumped into my throat. I really couldn’t speak now! I wanted to vomit.

My aisle mate grabbed my hand with reassurance and swaddle me as if I were a child. I felt such gratitude; I was not alone.

 

For more on this story Ann Reichardt’s 2nd book THE NEW DANCE CARD, Looking For Love Online  will swoon be released. It is a follow up of her published memoir THE DANCE CARD, Looking For Love After Divorce available on Amazon. com Barnes& Noble, Kindle, Apple I-tunes

 

 

Mirror… Reflections

Closing my tablet for the night, contemplating a meet up with Mr. Paso Doble, I retired to my bedroom, undressed  and glanced into a full-length mirror. That vision would depress me for some time. I rarely looked at myself in a mirror, maybe I feared the reality of how 63 years of hard work and “life” had changed my body. There I was face-to-face with a strange image… Who is that woman in the mirror? Oh that body and face had seen better days. Confidence was not a friend to me anymore and my insecurities magnified at that moment.

My face was no longer smooth. Those deep naso-labial folds and crows feet were deep. The upper lids needed lifting. The lower bags needed lifting as well. I could use one big gigantic pull forcing my hairline up so tight that my brows would touch my earlobes.

I slowly turned to peek at my profile. The gravitational pull on my torso was dramatic. All I could think was “Those damn Kardashians!” Enormous firm butts, how’d they do that? Implants perhaps? How could I ever show this aging body to any new suitor. I needed Mr. Paso Doble to give me an overhaul-no, a major overhaul. I need to do some research on this. Off to my medical books and google searches. It was a scary venture for sure.

To find out what happens with Mr. Paso Doble …”The New Dance Card” Looking For Love Online  will be released soon. Ann’s first book “The Dance Card” Looking For Love After Divorce  highlights the beginning of her 8 year journey now available on Amazon.com, Barnes & Noble, Apple  iTunes, kindle.

Ann Reichardt is a retired registered nurse, author, artist living in Scottsdale Arizona.

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