Mr. Samba

After reading my rough draft I waited for a critical review. I reassured him that my voice within the stories were investigative, reporting events as they unfolded. All the dating experiences were real.

Any future dancers would evolve, including Mr. Samba. I needed his perspective.

His critique came in. The comments were all specific. He felt some parts were page turners and titillating. ” Its going to be special Annie” he said with reassurance. “You have something here that will be helpful to many men and women  who find themselves single again.”

I was pleased. “You certainly are convincing . Thank you”

“You’ll be rewarded accordingly. The idea is sound; tactics and strategy need work and I will supplement that. By the way Im sure glad that Im not in the book. Would’ve complicated things down the road.”

“Perhaps you’ll be in my sequel?” I replied.

” Still sexy senior and single”he quipped. Ill go through a number of alliterations before the right handle is found.” He continued, “Lets plan a dinner soon to discuss.”

The time was set for my second opportunity to learn the Samba.

I thought back to when I first met all the other potential dancers for the first few dates. Id set all preexisting notions and unrealistic expectations aside this second time.

Meeting at a popular wine bar…I was nervous. As I entered there he was; big broad smile, exquisitely dressed, deep chestnut complexion, tall and handsome. My new dancer was at the starting gates. This healthy African American steed would accompany his pure white filly into a new arena of companionship, cooperation,consideration and collaboration- my new 4C’s. This new odd couple would be coming to dinner on a regular basis.

 

Ann’s new soon to be released book”The New Dance Card” Looking For Love online chronicles her 8 years journey of looking for that right guy to love in life. Her messages touch on many areas of relationship at any age. Dating is like a dance. An art, beautiful form of connecting.

 

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Shoes and Relationships…The Right Fit

The next audition for my New Dance Card:  A 52 year old Aerospace engineer, recently divorced with 2 kids. I was seeing a pattern: the age and stage of life seems to be a turning point. Is it the desire for something new? Or could it be the desire for two individuals who had lost connection along the way, or was it a mutual conclusion that they were not the “right fit” from the start? I thought it was the latter.

If we approached relationships as if we were shopping for a good pair of shoes, maybe we would all be more successful. The size, the fit, the look, the ease of slipping into every day and most importantly the ability to withstand the elements over years of wear- all crucial elements in the formula for comfort, sustainability, love and compatibility.

His profile read: I’m retired, married too young to my high school sweetheart for 29 years. Recently divorced. Was amicable. I do volunteering for the Humane Society, I clean cages, the the animals as fosters…sponsor at least 12 at a no kill shelter. It breaks my heart seeing all these abandoned animals. I better move on as I’m starting to tear up as I write this.

Iv’e done little dating as I seem to attract younger women and have no interest in someone half my age. The world of dating is scary even for a guy. Yes women are just as deceitful as men tend to be. I hate the fact that some date as if it were a sport. I’m not looking for friends with benefits or bed “buddies.”

While I commended this man for remaining friends with his ex, and his endearing profile and love for animals, I wasn’t quite sure we would be a fit. I know that after a long term marriage ends we hold on to old feelings for awhile and he was just divorced. I remember where my heart was after only a few short months of being solo. I need to try on a few more shoes!

THE NEW DANCE CARD

Two years had passed since my last attempt to be a couple with a man that promised love ever after. That was not to be. I was feeling the loss again. A different kind of grief but a sense of sadness nonetheless.

As the months being by myself passed, I was starting to feel lonely. I missed having someone in my life, even if it was temporary. I desired those moments again. Once again I perused the online dating sites. OMG, the number of online options had increased significantly since my last go round.

with excitement and enthusiasm, I approached the process as enlightening and fun this time. My laptop was open and eager to click away. Here I go again, I thought. I wondered who would be new on the scene. I was alone now- not lonely, but alone and I wanted to share my time with someone I could deeply care about.

My profile was reactivated and reflected with aging, there is a whole new set of rules about seeking companionship. I was now looking for security in knowing there would be someone there in time of need.”I have fallen and can’t get up!” That life alert button by itself may not be the safety net for one’s survival.

We humans are not designed to be alone. Yes, I sometimes protested that I was happy in my independence with the freedom to do as I pleased, but I always felt that desire to be a couple. It seemed to be a bigger need as I approached retirement. I was now applying for social security and medicare. Those fragile years of declining health. But is this reason enough to look for someone?

I believe now that I was looking for more than that. A friend of mine compared love and companionship. He quipped. “Love is meant to be more than having a safety net, that companion. A pet can provide that. A “Lover” will give you more. Remember that Annie.”

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Mr. Salsa

I hesitated over looking for another dance partner after Mr. Rumba. It was becoming a daunting task, but should it feel like a task at all? If the match is meant to be, then the moves should flow effortlessly. The pressure to keep up my appearance as a youthful and sought- after dance partner made me feel anxious.. Men are so damn visual! But then again so are women. I wanted someone tall and fit and good looking too.

The next profile that caught my eye delivered just what it promised. It read:

Something out of the ordinary: 52 year old man, 6ft 6in. divorced with one son, looking to find someone to do things with. Owned my own business, performed around the world…I don’t have a lot of free time.   He winked at me so I responded.

“Thanks for the notice. What kind of performing do you do?”

“I played cello. It’s a large instrument and fit my frame. I have played around the globe with symphony orchestras. Now I have my business making these beautiful instruments in my studio.”

I was hooked! I admired artists in all disciplines.I called him  Mr.Salsa because these dancers move to the beat of many instruments. He was a gentle giant with a soulful voice. Mr. Salsa was sexy and smooth at improvisation. This attitude made me respond in a similar manner.

Our first meeting was just that easy. We both felt a moment of “I know you from somewhere” Had we met before? That afternoon was one of delight and discovery.

To find out what happened with that afternoon of delight with Mr. Salsa…check her memoir “The Dance Card” Looking For Love After Divorce… available now on Amazon.com, Barnes & Noble, Apple i-tunes, kindle

Visit her website for more dances with a variety of dancers: http://www.loveonthedancefloor.com

Her newest book soon to be released “The New Dance Card” Looking For Love Online continues this journey of searching for the right dance partner in love and life.

Mirror… Reflections

Closing my tablet for the night, contemplating a meet up with Mr. Paso Doble, I retired to my bedroom, undressed  and glanced into a full-length mirror. That vision would depress me for some time. I rarely looked at myself in a mirror, maybe I feared the reality of how 63 years of hard work and “life” had changed my body. There I was face-to-face with a strange image… Who is that woman in the mirror? Oh that body and face had seen better days. Confidence was not a friend to me anymore and my insecurities magnified at that moment.

My face was no longer smooth. Those deep naso-labial folds and crows feet were deep. The upper lids needed lifting. The lower bags needed lifting as well. I could use one big gigantic pull forcing my hairline up so tight that my brows would touch my earlobes.

I slowly turned to peek at my profile. The gravitational pull on my torso was dramatic. All I could think was “Those damn Kardashians!” Enormous firm butts, how’d they do that? Implants perhaps? How could I ever show this aging body to any new suitor. I needed Mr. Paso Doble to give me an overhaul-no, a major overhaul. I need to do some research on this. Off to my medical books and google searches. It was a scary venture for sure.

To find out what happens with Mr. Paso Doble …”The New Dance Card” Looking For Love Online  will be released soon. Ann’s first book “The Dance Card” Looking For Love After Divorce  highlights the beginning of her 8 year journey now available on Amazon.com, Barnes & Noble, Apple  iTunes, kindle.

Ann Reichardt is a retired registered nurse, author, artist living in Scottsdale Arizona.

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