Mr. Samba

After reading my rough draft I waited for a critical review. I reassured him that my voice within the stories were investigative, reporting events as they unfolded. All the dating experiences were real.

Any future dancers would evolve, including Mr. Samba. I needed his perspective.

His critique came in. The comments were all specific. He felt some parts were page turners and titillating. ” Its going to be special Annie” he said with reassurance. “You have something here that will be helpful to many men and women  who find themselves single again.”

I was pleased. “You certainly are convincing . Thank you”

“You’ll be rewarded accordingly. The idea is sound; tactics and strategy need work and I will supplement that. By the way Im sure glad that Im not in the book. Would’ve complicated things down the road.”

“Perhaps you’ll be in my sequel?” I replied.

” Still sexy senior and single”he quipped. Ill go through a number of alliterations before the right handle is found.” He continued, “Lets plan a dinner soon to discuss.”

The time was set for my second opportunity to learn the Samba.

I thought back to when I first met all the other potential dancers for the first few dates. Id set all preexisting notions and unrealistic expectations aside this second time.

Meeting at a popular wine bar…I was nervous. As I entered there he was; big broad smile, exquisitely dressed, deep chestnut complexion, tall and handsome. My new dancer was at the starting gates. This healthy African American steed would accompany his pure white filly into a new arena of companionship, cooperation,consideration and collaboration- my new 4C’s. This new odd couple would be coming to dinner on a regular basis.

 

Ann’s new soon to be released book”The New Dance Card” Looking For Love online chronicles her 8 years journey of looking for that right guy to love in life. Her messages touch on many areas of relationship at any age. Dating is like a dance. An art, beautiful form of connecting.

 

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Mr. Samba (Collaborative dancer)

Returning to my safe middle of the road Midwestern town I was invigorated and  I felt a renewed fresh outlook on dating someone closer to me.

Back to the online dating site I perused the many faces that weren’t there a few weeks earlier. The one that stood out was a one time former date, 2 years prior, a connection that did not allow us to move forward to that second date for reasons that I would find out  why later.

His profile popped up through the cybernetic forces calling to me, “Look at me! Look at me!”

” Shared laughter and a positive outlook on life is a must.” I remembered those words and opened up is profile. Sure enough there he was. Mr. Samba.Tall, athletic, brilliant and cultured.

I beckoned back: “I remember our one and only meeting. You took me to a professional basketball game. It was a cold January evening but it was delightful. Have you found that lovely love of your life?

We reconnected. Discussing our family issues back then that prevented any further communication. My father was ill and had passed. His mother was suffering the beginning affects of Alzheimer’s. So here we were again ready to see if a second go round might be more successful.

He was a promoter of music and athletics. He loved sports and played throughout his collegiate years. A star basketball player. He was also brilliant. He was connected to many producers and movie moguls having lived in L.A. so the stories were extremely interesting.

During the 2 year absence I had started to write stories about relationships and the crap of enduring divorce. I chronicled my messages into a manuscript and was thinking of publishing. As it evolved I thought to myself this would be a great movie! A Romantic Comedy! Now all I needed was someone to help me promote it. Who better than Mr. Samba?

 

The next few years would prove to be some of the most incredible life changing events that I owe all to Mr. Samba.

 

To learn more about Mr. Samba and his genius be sure to look for Ann’s new book. “The New Dance Card” Looking For Love Online.    Her now 10 year journey is filled with insightful clues on dating again in midlife and the pitfalls and pleasantries of online dating.

Hilarious , romantic yet cautionary tales sure to intrigue all readers of any age.

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Mr. Lap Dance (sexual dancer)

Number 8 on my new dance card would be Mr. Lap dance. He was a mover and a shaker, hauling cargo around this vast country in a big rig that was his home on the road.

His profile read;

Im not into playing games I want something more than to meet my match online and get off this dating site.

Some important questions:

Are you emotionally stable? (yes or no)

Which of these do you have?

Bipolar disorder

Schizophrenia

OCD

ADHD, ADD

Codependency

anorexia, bulimia

None of the above?

He was always on the road so our conversations were usually at night. After a month or so of communicating we decided to meet. It would be a mutually agreed upon location but it meant a long drive. I always seemed to be the one to drive to destinations and I was wondering why? Was I that desperate?  I remember a similar situation I had with Mr. Hustle and how disastrous that turned out. I need to inform my sister Susie of my plans…she would be my safety net.

That one  time meeting would leave me filled with doubt about the intentions of some.

To find out what happened with Mr. LAP DANCE Ann chronicles her dates in her soon to be released 2nd book “The New Dance Card” Looking For Love Online. A series of 3 books in her long arduous journey looking for love again in midlife.

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Shoes and Relationships…The Right Fit

The next audition for my New Dance Card:  A 52 year old Aerospace engineer, recently divorced with 2 kids. I was seeing a pattern: the age and stage of life seems to be a turning point. Is it the desire for something new? Or could it be the desire for two individuals who had lost connection along the way, or was it a mutual conclusion that they were not the “right fit” from the start? I thought it was the latter.

If we approached relationships as if we were shopping for a good pair of shoes, maybe we would all be more successful. The size, the fit, the look, the ease of slipping into every day and most importantly the ability to withstand the elements over years of wear- all crucial elements in the formula for comfort, sustainability, love and compatibility.

His profile read: I’m retired, married too young to my high school sweetheart for 29 years. Recently divorced. Was amicable. I do volunteering for the Humane Society, I clean cages, the the animals as fosters…sponsor at least 12 at a no kill shelter. It breaks my heart seeing all these abandoned animals. I better move on as I’m starting to tear up as I write this.

Iv’e done little dating as I seem to attract younger women and have no interest in someone half my age. The world of dating is scary even for a guy. Yes women are just as deceitful as men tend to be. I hate the fact that some date as if it were a sport. I’m not looking for friends with benefits or bed “buddies.”

While I commended this man for remaining friends with his ex, and his endearing profile and love for animals, I wasn’t quite sure we would be a fit. I know that after a long term marriage ends we hold on to old feelings for awhile and he was just divorced. I remember where my heart was after only a few short months of being solo. I need to try on a few more shoes!

The new Age of techno-dating

Returning to this crazy new age of dating, I thought I would be an expert after all those years of muddling through that one dating site. The progression should be smooth and effortless, I thought to myself. I soon learned that the online dating scene had taken a grand leap. The popularity of dating in cyberspace the number of possible sites to choose from was staggering. There were sites to entice individuals based on color, religious affiliation, culture, hobbies and age. Narrowing down the playing field would make this much easier. I no longer had to sit at my computer desk. All that information was in the palm of my hand…my cell phone. I could have at the instant notifications of men who wanted to connect.

I soon discovered the numbers of lonely hearts out there came in all ages. I felt sorry for the young people today having to look for love in this noncommittal and detached way.The days of longing for a young suitor to carry you away, lifting you across that alter of love, romance and marriage were gone. These kinds of expectations are not in the cards for many career- driven college graduates. That drive for power and financial acumen, sacrificing having a family during those fertile years and then with regret finding out too late that her proverbial biological clock stopped.

I felt fortunate that I had already had my chance, my family, my history. There was no need to hurry things up for those reasons. My expectations were different.

That messages were coming in now…The men that perused the dating site and found my profile interesting. Off to begin my reading for the day…

Tomorrow: The WINKS

Ann Reichardt is a relationship guide for those who have challenges in finding love after loss. Having personal experience in looking for love after her long term marriage ended. The many lessons she learned along the way can help others experiencing similar challenges

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Ann Reichardt

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Mr. Waltz The Dance Of Romance

After the whirlwind of emotions settled from my dance with Mr. Jitterbug I was eager to find that last dancer to fill my Dance Card of Love in hopes that it may be my final and most long lasting partner.

It all started with that darn ” wink” and a comment. ” A vision of beauty and grace.”

Ooh nice I thought. The flattery did not go unnoticed. But he was only 44 years old! I would be a senior woman to him. Why on earth did his profile pop up? His listed ideal age range was 35 to 45. He was new to the area.TALL, HANDSOME, and intriguing, one young daughter.

Clearly I did not fit within his parameters of who he was looking for . Why then did he want to connect? Being that nurturer I felt compelled to assist him in becoming acquainted with the area.

And So our dance began… The Waltz;the romantic of all ballroom dances, slow and deliberate as each step is enunciated with emotion and drama.

AND OH …THERE WAS PLENTY OF BOTH

 

To see how Ann’s dance with Mr. Waltz progress read her memoir “The Dance Card” Looking For Love After Divorce available on Amazon. com, Barnes &Noble, Apple i-tunes, kindle and nook

The 8 years of looking for love online is chronicled with humor, romance drama and cautionary tales

http://www.loveonthedancefloor.com

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