Mr. Samba

After reading my rough draft I waited for a critical review. I reassured him that my voice within the stories were investigative, reporting events as they unfolded. All the dating experiences were real.

Any future dancers would evolve, including Mr. Samba. I needed his perspective.

His critique came in. The comments were all specific. He felt some parts were page turners and titillating. ” Its going to be special Annie” he said with reassurance. “You have something here that will be helpful to many men and women  who find themselves single again.”

I was pleased. “You certainly are convincing . Thank you”

“You’ll be rewarded accordingly. The idea is sound; tactics and strategy need work and I will supplement that. By the way Im sure glad that Im not in the book. Would’ve complicated things down the road.”

“Perhaps you’ll be in my sequel?” I replied.

” Still sexy senior and single”he quipped. Ill go through a number of alliterations before the right handle is found.” He continued, “Lets plan a dinner soon to discuss.”

The time was set for my second opportunity to learn the Samba.

I thought back to when I first met all the other potential dancers for the first few dates. Id set all preexisting notions and unrealistic expectations aside this second time.

Meeting at a popular wine bar…I was nervous. As I entered there he was; big broad smile, exquisitely dressed, deep chestnut complexion, tall and handsome. My new dancer was at the starting gates. This healthy African American steed would accompany his pure white filly into a new arena of companionship, cooperation,consideration and collaboration- my new 4C’s. This new odd couple would be coming to dinner on a regular basis.

 

Ann’s new soon to be released book”The New Dance Card” Looking For Love online chronicles her 8 years journey of looking for that right guy to love in life. Her messages touch on many areas of relationship at any age. Dating is like a dance. An art, beautiful form of connecting.

 

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THAT KISS…

Closing the door on my long time friend after our hours long therapy session I became a bit nervous”Oh Boy” Was he so starved for affection that he was looking at me as his subject for those desirable romantic moments he was so longing for?

YIKES!  I better not go there. Cannot happen, never will. But he looked so deep into my eyes at that moment.- now what was I going to do? Off to bed I went consumed with those crazy thoughts.

That next morning I was exhausted from that night of being therapist to my friend Jeff. Then I thought, Shit what kind of therapy? marriage advice or sex therapy?  Would or should he be on my “Dance Card.” I knew he would reenter my life in hopes of finding love–maybe not with me, but then again who better to teach than the holder of the dance card.

Weeks went by and I didn’t hear from Jeff. I wondered where he was in his marriage? He did not enlist my assistance after that day, I didn’t ask why. The last I heard was that he had read my first book that I wrote after the failure of my marriage. The stories describe my exhausting journey  jumping into the pool of online dating, looking for suitors to be potential long term loves in my life. Maybe he decided to stay.

His last words to me that night were,” I’d be happy with those few defining intimate moments with someone who’d make me smile. That is all I need. I can live with the rest, sad as it may be.”

I wondered if he found someone to share those pleasurable moments? I was happy it was not me?   MAYBE.

 

To find out what happened to Jeff be sure to look for my soon to be released book The New Dance Card, Looking For Love Online. It is a second in a 3 book series of searching for that right partner in life. The first book”The Dance Card” Looking For Love After Divorce chronicles Ann’s beginning adventures in dating again after the end of her marriage. Aavailable on Amazon. com, Barnes& Noble, Kindle, Apple  i-tunes.

Ann Reichardt is a long time resident of Wisconsin and now lives in Scottsdale Arizona. She is a retired registered nurse and educator of the arts. Her oil paintings have been in several showings in New York City. She has illustrated  children’s books and is working on more. Her passion for the arts, theatre, singing performing has played a big role in her life. She has two daughters and a wonderful extended family that have supported her on this journey.

 

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Shoes and Relationships…The Right Fit

The next audition for my New Dance Card:  A 52 year old Aerospace engineer, recently divorced with 2 kids. I was seeing a pattern: the age and stage of life seems to be a turning point. Is it the desire for something new? Or could it be the desire for two individuals who had lost connection along the way, or was it a mutual conclusion that they were not the “right fit” from the start? I thought it was the latter.

If we approached relationships as if we were shopping for a good pair of shoes, maybe we would all be more successful. The size, the fit, the look, the ease of slipping into every day and most importantly the ability to withstand the elements over years of wear- all crucial elements in the formula for comfort, sustainability, love and compatibility.

His profile read: I’m retired, married too young to my high school sweetheart for 29 years. Recently divorced. Was amicable. I do volunteering for the Humane Society, I clean cages, the the animals as fosters…sponsor at least 12 at a no kill shelter. It breaks my heart seeing all these abandoned animals. I better move on as I’m starting to tear up as I write this.

Iv’e done little dating as I seem to attract younger women and have no interest in someone half my age. The world of dating is scary even for a guy. Yes women are just as deceitful as men tend to be. I hate the fact that some date as if it were a sport. I’m not looking for friends with benefits or bed “buddies.”

While I commended this man for remaining friends with his ex, and his endearing profile and love for animals, I wasn’t quite sure we would be a fit. I know that after a long term marriage ends we hold on to old feelings for awhile and he was just divorced. I remember where my heart was after only a few short months of being solo. I need to try on a few more shoes!

Next Profiles of Discourage

Back to my secretary, my mac book air, the only friend I had over the years in assisting in finding a man. Someone who would fit in my new life. Ah so man profiles to peruse. It was getting to be a job. Why are there so many of us out there? Single and alone. I moved on to the next profile.

It read: ” Former Geek continuing transformation. Now sensitive, eclectic, and brainy is good- who knew? I’m charming,funny, witty and polite. Really! Mom said so! Actually so do my friends and coworkers(all partnered, no help there). Don’t live with my parents or friends. Sorry not a fan of coffee. ( I know that’s a big one) I have never been arrested or spent time in jail. I don’t sew or crochet. The first thing I notice is a woman’s hands. Yes seriously. I will add other things as we go through the journey.

No I don’t have a motorcycle and no plans to ever get one. I don’t have any tattoos or piercings. Yes I wear glasses, not contacts(the geek in me), I have all my limbs and no dentures( yes I was once asked that). Have never done drugs. Yes, I have a job and get paid.”

I thought silly profile but kinda cute. His message sure got my attention and made me smile I wondered if he really was geeky. Was he highly intellectual. By joining  any dating site there is a sense of non commitment and safety in just the written word. Could he handle the challenge of meeting someone face-to-face? I decided to play that “waiting game” with him. That time between reading and responding: hitting that reply button. You never know who will be interested.

 

For the continuing story on this date … be sure to pick up Ann’s soon to be released “The New Dance Card” Looking For Love Online. It is a followup of her book”The Dance Card” Looking For Love After Divorce now available on Amazon, Barnes&Noble, Kindle and I-Tunes

 

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Mr. Twist… Hearttolove

The Twist is a provocative dance inspired by rock and roll music in the 1950s, with origins traced back to West Africa with its pelvic thrust movements and shuffling of the feet. Today most remember the twist as a simple dance catapulted to fame by Chubby Checker in the 1960s when he performed on The Dick Clark show American Bandstand.

I read his lengthy profile and decided to say “Hello” through the online dating site.

His personal response was even more elaborate: It included being humble and trustworthy and romantic and God fearing. He detested liars. He stated that the reason so many men and women don’t have success in relationships is because we are all concerned about our own personal gain instead of examining what we each have to offer in a relationship. He went on and on about growing together emotionally, spiritually and physically and so forth.  Blah Blah Blah… “Yah, don’t we all know this?”

He was persistent in having me give him my email address so that we could further our communication offline. He claimed he was an engineer and in Nigeria working.  BUT his writing was inconsistent in the English language. I figured he was a foreigner. What was he doing in Nigeria? I was a bit apprehensive.

My curiosity took hold and I did respond… via the site but his profile disappeared. The dating site posted  a message saying the username “HEARTTOLOVE” did not exist.

No problem, I thought, I hadn’t invested any time in him. Maybe he found someone else who would fit into his dream world– in Nigeria.

Shortly thereafter, I received a direct message from another member on the dating site. She wrote” Be aware that ‘Hearttolove’is the name of a Nigerian scammer targeting women. He scammed me out of thousands of dollars. He calls himself ‘Twister.’This man is charming, sexy and good looking but the pictures are also stolen identity. Please do not send money.”

I greatly appreciated this woman from the dating site. She was playing the role I had played with Mr. Hustle. Her mission was to make other women aware that not everyone is looking for “true love.”

Many times I have been asked” How can you put yourself out there and not know what your’e getting into? My answer is always the same:

“Until you have walked in my dancing shoes, you’ll never know the task of finding someone to fill  your loveless life. Hopefully you never will. So  my uninformed friend stay content with your life and who you chose to be with in this life. If someday you find yourself in a similar situation…come to me and say “Ah! I understand.”

On to the next profile…

 

For more information and to follow Ann Reichardt be sure to read her first book ” The Dance Card” Looking For Love After Divorce. available on Amazon. com. Barnes& Noble, Apple itunes and Kindle.

Her follow up book “The New Dance Card” Looking For Love Online continues her journey in searching for that right partner in love and life.

“Life Is A Dance”

Ann Reichardt

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anniereichardt@gmail.com

http://www.loveonthedancefloor.com

 

 

 

Mr. Foxtrot….Follow Your Heart…And Your Gut

My very first enlistment on my second “dance card’ is Mr. Foxtrot. He is slow  and smooth, reminiscent of my most endearing dancer Mr. Waltz. It is often referred to as the Rolls Royce of the standard dances: beautiful, romantic conjuring up images of Ginger Rogers and Fred Astaire gliding with ease across the stage.

It had been several days since I first connected with him. but I knew waiting was part of the drill.. I was not disappointed, just realistic in knowing that delayed gratification was the pattern of online dating.

Then in came the message: Hello you must be Annie,the little orphaned girl looking for that perfect family to take you into their hearts. I would love to be your Daddy Warbucks.

I was now ready to release the past and move forward I need to formulate a clever pitch, a perfect introduction to this witty guy.

“It’s a Hard Knock Life” and I have kicked those hard days. I wanted to abandon those ragamuffin clothes for refined attire and move to the big city. That sun will certainly be coming out tomorrow-with you.”

“Annie, bet your bottom dollar. Tomorrow and the next day and the next You are fun!  Are you ready for an adventure?”

“More than ready but if your’e envisioning a feisty curly haired red head you are going to be greatly disappointed.”

” I know exactly what you look like from your profile picture. Don’t change a thing.” ‘You’re Annie?’ Sam (Tom Hanks) says at the top of the Empire State building in Sleepless in Seattle. I would love to be Sam Reed and you Annie Baldwin, a chance meeting at the top  would be romantic. Can you hear the song playing now? Jimmy Durante singing ‘As Time Goes By'”

I thought “How sweet” But I also remembered my last dancer Mr. Waltz and how I got caught up in all of his romantic rhetoric. I was cautious now.

The next long email came in from Mr. Foxtrot. That foxy guy chasing me into a world of romantic screen plays, with soundtracks to stir the emotions. This time he wrote, “Annie, you are ShopGirl(Kathleen Kelly) and I am NY152(Joe Fox), in “You’ve Got Mail” She prefers the laptop I prefer you. Imagine the two of us meeting at that garden of eden at the end of our journey, our electronic journey. When we “fall in love” again, it will be forever. I’m your Mr. Joe Foxtrot.

At this point I was getting a little apprehensive about this guy. I saw him as the fox and the chase was his thrill. All the silly dialogue clouded my sense of reality.He became that bachelor behind the proverbial screen and I was eyeing that this match game needed to end. Trot away Mr. Foxtrot. Trot away

 

Ann Reichardt

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http://www.loveonthedancefloor.com

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