The Dating Game…The Waiting Game

The dating game, that competition for the many lovesick individuals challenged to reach that ultimate goal: love, companionship,friendship,, intimacy and possible marriage. This new effort would be exhausting. Would it be a 5K or a complete marathon requiring a great deal of endurance. How would I separate myself from the masses that had joined me?

That popular weekly half-hour show from the 1970’s was the precursor to all that followed in the dating world. Separated by a screen from 3 unknown bachelors or bachelorettes armed with a few titillating questions not particularly pertinent to each person. The men or women would finally be revealed from behind that curtain one by one. The rejected suitors would kiss the contestant and be on their way.  The chosen one would be the last to be revealed  and the reactions were always “priceless” Most often disappointed.

Not much has changed… we are still separated by a screen. Now we have the ability to eliminate without the commitment of connecting.

BLINK….

 

 

Ann Reichardt

anniereichardt@gmail.com

relationship expert

author of “The Dance Card” Looking For Love After Divorce

http://www.loveonthedancefloor.com

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Dancing In The Stars

Returning to my laptop, my secretary that guided me through my last adventures in looking for love after divorce  for the past 8  years I felt it was time to reach into that cyberspace once again. All those stars out there,  the many men and women looking to find that one that would make their lives bright; it was time to start dancing again.

“WINKS”  as they are referred to on the online dating sites provide an initial introduction to a person letting them know they are interested in beginning a connection. I would like to refer to them as ‘BLINKS” because that is how fast it is to connect and then disconnect.

My very first “Wink” A man in his fifties. Tall, dark, and with a full head of hair, separated, no kids.

His profile reads: The calendar has again turned the page on another season. What do these pages hold in store for us? Shall we find out together? Yet another spring is slowly turning into summer. The spring plants are thirsty for the rains to renew their blossoms. Without the raid no plants will grow and no flowers will bloom. We also need something to refresh and renew our spirits. Are you thirsty for a relationship that will refresh your soul and renew that spirit?

Interesting, thoughtful and a touch of femininity. These words were lovely but I wanted a “man’s man” Someone who would pick me up off that dance floor with force and strength catapult me into a relationship that would equal the passion of Liz Taylor and Richard Burton. I didn’t think he was the Burton type. With a BLINK I decided not to respond.

I found out that it was impossible to reply to all the would be suitors out in”cyberspace” I  knew it was unkind  and I am typically a nice person but it became exhausting. I could now understand how a literary agent felt; receiving countless queries from wannabe authors, in hopes their manuscripts- and in this case, profiles- would not be another heap of meaningless script tossed in the slush pile. I had to do some tossing…Moving On.

WINK #2 “Some kinda ecstasy gotta a hold on me”

WINK#3  “Heart has healed and ready to make friends”

WINK #4 “No job, no car, live with parents”

REALLY? BLINK …

WINK#5 A 65-year-old widowed man from Seattle

His profile read: Release the past. Live in today. Plan for tomorrow. Love starts with a smile. developed with a kiss, and ends with a tear. The romance is in the kiss…only kindred sprits should apply!

Good solid advice, I thought so I kept reading.

My closest friends describe me as funny, creative, and passionate about living. I’m just a nice gut who smiles a lot and loves life. I have had a charmed life. I met the girl I was born to love and we had a fairytale romance for 35 years. She passed away 8 years ago and now it is time for me to move on…she would have wanted it that way. I am ready to dance.

AH! NO BLINK HERE…A potential partner

TO BE CONTINUED

 

Ann Reichardt

relationship coach

contact:

annreichardt@aol.com

anniereichardt@gmail.com

http://www.loveonthedancefloor.com

 

Finding Love After Divorce with Ann Reichardt, Interview with Nancy Ferrari

The Dance Card - Finding Love After Divorce

LISTEN TO THE FULL INTERVIEW HERE!

Welcome to The Nancy Ferrari Show where I share real, relevant and relatable conversations with my dynamic guests!

Finding Love In this episode, I introduce you to Ann Reichardt, RN, artist, performer, athlete, and author of her book “The Dance Card: Looking for Love After Divorce”.

As an author, she delves into the human psyche regarding relationships as a young girl and now as an older mature adult, re-entering that world of love and romance. The tales are all chronicled in her series of books of midlife self discovery after the dissolution of a 30 year marriage and how she had to begin again, discovering important clues in finding love and maintaining a relationship.

With point blank insight and sexual intrigue, she questions the notion of finding love after weaving through this new dance floor of love. “The Dance Card”, which is her expressive…

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Finding Love After Divorce with Ann Reichardt, Interview with Nancy Ferrari

LISTEN TO THE FULL INTERVIEW HERE!

Welcome to The Nancy Ferrari Show where I share real, relevant and relatable conversations with my dynamic guests!

Finding Love In this episode, I introduce you to Ann Reichardt, RN, artist, performer, athlete, and author of her book “The Dance Card: Looking for Love After Divorce”.

As an author, she delves into the human psyche regarding relationships as a young girl and now as an older mature adult, re-entering that world of love and romance. The tales are all chronicled in her series of books of midlife self discovery after the dissolution of a 30 year marriage and how she had to begin again, discovering important clues in finding love and maintaining a relationship.

With point blank insight and sexual intrigue, she questions the notion of finding love after weaving through this new dance floor of love. “The Dance Card”, which is her expressive narrative nonfiction, opens her up to vulnerabilities and cautionary tales inherent in modern day romance.

Ann shares the “Do’s and Don’ts” about dating after divorce or any loss, at any age. She addresses the many mistakes to avoid when looking for love again after divorce, such as:

  1. Complete your grieving process
  2. Avoid rebounding into a new relationship too soon.
  3. Resist unrealistic expectations entering into dating and/or a new relationship thinking it will be long term. The formula for finding a partner has changed dramatically with both men and women in midlife.
  4. Do not carry the wounds from your past forward. Be ready to accept a new person in our lives on a different level.
  5. Examine your options as there are more options than ever within the digital dating world. Be selective and do not settle for the sake of being a couple.
  6. Be open to a variety of relationships, whether as a companion, a passionate intimate relationship or just friendship.
  7. Be aware of the many factors that prepare you to be ready to date again after a long term marriage ends.
    8. Identify a partner in recognizing who might be a perfect partner for a long term relationship on and off the dance floor of love.

Finding Love After Divorce with Ann Reichardt