Mr. Grind (painful dance)

I hesitated looking for another guy online but I knew that living miles apart creates obstacles when trying to find a continual connection with someone. Mr Rumba lived so far from me and neither of us could or would relocate to accommodate the other. The connection continues, however, in a most unlikely way.

Mr. Grind presented himself as a very confident guy with few inhibitions. Much like the dance he was ready to straddle his partner. It sounded more painful than seductive with this partner and it was.

We decided to meet for a drink after his round of golf on a sunny summer day. I wore my usual little black sleeveless dress to impress. The date and time was set. I arrived and sat in a large leather chair and waited for my painful counterpart to arrive. An hour went by and I was getting impatient.Ordering a seven up I sat for another few minutes.

Barreling through the door of the restaurant was a stocky, redheaded somewhat attractive guy wearing plaid shorts, a pink polo shirt and boat shoes. He glanced across the room and spotted a young lovely 30 some-thing woman sitting alone. I intercepted his move towards her and introduced myself. Much to his dismay I was not the young lady he was hoping for.

I joked, “Too bad your’e stuck with me.”

He sat down and ordered a drink, never apologizing for his tardiness. He said he was celebrating on the 19th hole with his buddies.

I  asked about his life, family and why he was single again.

He answered with complete disregard for my feelings. “Oh I was married for 25 years,I decided I didn’t love her anymore and wanted someone more stimulating.”

Oh my dear God!


To find out more about Mr. Grind and how this date went, check Ann’s book “The Dance Card” Looking For love After Divorce. available at bookstores and online Kindle, Apple I-tunes

Her 8 years of looking for love will open your eyes to the romance, sex and cautionary tales inherent in dating at any age, especially when dating online

Mr. Salsa

I hesitated over looking for another dance partner after Mr. Rumba. It was becoming a daunting task, but should it feel like a task at all? If the match is meant to be, then the moves should flow effortlessly. The pressure to keep up my appearance as a youthful and sought- after dance partner made me feel anxious.. Men are so damn visual! But then again so are women. I wanted someone tall and fit and good looking too.

The next profile that caught my eye delivered just what it promised. It read:

Something out of the ordinary: 52 year old man, 6ft 6in. divorced with one son, looking to find someone to do things with. Owned my own business, performed around the world…I don’t have a lot of free time.   He winked at me so I responded.

“Thanks for the notice. What kind of performing do you do?”

“I played cello. It’s a large instrument and fit my frame. I have played around the globe with symphony orchestras. Now I have my business making these beautiful instruments in my studio.”

I was hooked! I admired artists in all disciplines.I called him  Mr.Salsa because these dancers move to the beat of many instruments. He was a gentle giant with a soulful voice. Mr. Salsa was sexy and smooth at improvisation. This attitude made me respond in a similar manner.

Our first meeting was just that easy. We both felt a moment of “I know you from somewhere” Had we met before? That afternoon was one of delight and discovery.

To find out what happened with that afternoon of delight with Mr. Salsa…check her memoir “The Dance Card” Looking For Love After Divorce… available now on, Barnes & Noble, Apple i-tunes, kindle

Visit her website for more dances with a variety of dancers:

Her newest book soon to be released “The New Dance Card” Looking For Love Online continues this journey of searching for the right dance partner in love and life.

Coming Soon! The New Dance Card

COMING SOON! Continuing my search for love on the virtual page!

Soon to be released The New Dance Card. Where are the first dancers/dates today? Opening up a new card of love with new romantic options in hopes of finding that perfect match…

Ann Reichardt shares her sometimes hilarious, romantic and cautionary tales of looking for love after her 30 year marriage ended.

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